My 7 year old daughter loves to play on my sewing machine, she will hop on there and sew away. And I let her do it, without any advice or input from me.
It wasn’t always that way though. When she first started asking me to show her how to sew, I would grudgingly sit with her and try to impress upon her the importance of being careful, being precise, being serious but she would usually get frustrated and leave. Which, honestly, was fine with me.
One day as I was frantically trying to meet a deadline, she asked to sew. I distractedly told her that she would have to do it by herself and that I couldn’t help her…..not even once, so don’t ask me. (Not my proudest mommy moment!). I thought that would deter her from wanting to sew, but boy was I wrong! She was released from my stringent, uptight behavior and was free to enjoy the process. Soon fabric scraps were flying and she was completely in her element. Just look at that smile!
The things that she created were amazing to me. She wasn’t worried about what I thought, she was just enjoying the process!
Watching her got me thinking, when was the last time that I jumped into a project with such abandonment and unleashed joy. Then I thought about Grandpa as he was teaching me to sew. He didn’t constantly tell me to be careful, he didn’t hold his breath waiting for me to make a mistake. He was a cool, calm teacher. How much would I have learned if I felt like everything I did was going to be mistake?
But sometimes, those uptight voices aren’t coming from someone else, sometime they are in our own heads! When was the last time I prevented myself from enjoying the process because I was too worried about making a mistake? The next time I sit down at my sewing machine to start a new project, I am going to take a cue from my daughter and remember to enjoy the process!